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A Listening

Hello America. Systematic oppression and inequality are not right! I know you’re feeling hurt, angry, outraged, anxious, full of grief, exhausted, overwhelmed, fed up, divided, and at risk.

We are here to listen.

Please note that by working with any of our Coaches we will be respectful of other people’s race, sexuality, national origin, gender identity, religion, physical abilities, and any other identifying characteristics. We ask that when in session with us, you do the same.

I want to encourage you to contact Vital Ability, LLC and be assured that working with any of our Coaches will be done in a hate-free violence-free zone. We will not participate in nor endorse any kind of hateful speech regarding indviduals and groups of people.

We do support and endorse advocacy, empowerment, civility, personal responsibility, authenticity, engagement and service in a desire to improve one’s own self and move forward successfully towards accomplishing your own personal goals for your life.

How Coaches and Therapists Differ

How Therapists and Coaches Differ

Keeping in mind that contrasting lists such as these can be overly sweeping, and not entirely explanatory of the subtleties that exist, here are some of the differences between coaching and therapy.

  1. COACHING is an educational, discovery-based process of human potential.
    THERAPY is based on the medical model that says people have psychiatric maladies that need to be repaired.
  2. COACHING focuses on self-exploration, self-knowledge, professional development, performance enhancement and better self-management.
    THERAPY seeks to heal emotional wounds.
  3. COACHING takes clients to the highest levels of performance and life satisfaction.
    THERAPY seeks to bring clients from a dysfunctional place to a healthy functioning level.
  4. COACHING rarely asks about your childhood or family life.
    THERAPY continuously explores early-childhood, family and relationship issues.
  5. COACHING uses the terms blockages and obstructions to denote what needs to be removed.
    THERAPY uses the term “pathology” to describe the “patient’s” issues.
  6. COACHING focuses more on the present and future.
    THERAPY focuses more on the past and present.
  7. COACHING advances the client’s potential.
    THERAPY “cures” the patient.
  8. COACHING is used by people who already are succeeding, but who want to succeed even more and at a faster rate.
    THERAPY is used by people whose lives are not working.
  9. COACHING focuses more on thoughts and behavior and how the client acts and thinks about things.
    THERAPY focuses more on emotions and how the client feels about things.
  10. COACHING comes out of the human potential movement and the performance world.
    THERAPY has its roots in the medical model.
  11. COACHING focuses on solving problems in the now.
    THERAPY explores the historical roots of problems.
  12. COACHING works with the client’s conscious mind.
    THERAPY focuses on bringing the patient’s unconscious mind into awareness.
  13. COACHING focuses on creating the future.
    THERAPY seeks to heal the past.
  14. COACHING seeks to bring more power, control and joy to the client.
    THERAPY seeks to remove the client’s pain.
  15. COACHING assumes a co-equal partnership between coach and client.
    THERAPY assumes the therapist to be more of the expert, and in control.
  16. COACHING has strategies and objectives.
    THERAPY has a treatment plan.
  17. COACHING asks “What is next?”
    THERAPY asks “Why”?
  18. COACHING helps clients design their lives.
    THERAPY resolves issues.
  19. COACHING takes an active, energetic approach.
    THERAPY takes a more passive, reflective, background approach.
  20. COACHING focuses on what is possible.
    THERAPY focuses on what is the problem.
  21. COACHING is goal-oriented, solution-focused and results and action-oriented.
    THERAPY mainly seeks to increase patient insight, yet some therapists are solution-focused.
  22. COACHING may also utilize feedback from bosses, peers and subordinates.
    THERAPY usually involves only the patient and therapist.
  23. COACHING takes the client from where they are and helps them move forward.
    THERAPY examines unfinished emotional business from all stages of life.

~ Written by: Bill Cole/William Cole

Pandemic Reflections

Its important to be gentle with yourself and with others. We all have our own experiences and our own perceptions of a situation. Sometimes, utilizing a Life Coach can help a person gain clarity and a different way of looking at things.

WE ARE NOT IN THE SAME BOAT …

I heard that we are all in the same boat, but it’s not like that. We are in the same storm, but not in the same boat. Your ship could be shipwrecked and mine might not be. Or vice versa.

For some, quarantine is optimal. A moment of reflection, of re-connection, easy in flip flops, with a cocktail or coffee. For others, this is a desperate financial & family crisis.

For some that live alone they’re facing endless loneliness. While for others it is peace, rest & time with their mother, father, sons & daughters.

With the $600 weekly increase in unemployment some are bringing in more money to their households than they were working. Others are working more hours for less money due to pay cuts or loss in sales.

Some families of 4 just received $3400 from the stimulus while other families of 4 saw $0.

Some were concerned about getting a certain candy for Easter while others were concerned if there would be enough bread, milk and eggs for the weekend.

Some want to go back to work because they don’t qualify for unemployment and are running out of money. Others want to kill those who break the quarantine.

Some are home spending 2-3 hours/day helping their child with online schooling while others are spending 2-3 hours/day to educate their children on top of a 10-12 hour workday.

Some have experienced the near death of the virus, some have already lost someone from it and some are not sure if their loved ones are going to make it. Others don’t believe this is a big deal. Others don’t believe it’s real.

Some have faith in God and expect miracles during this 2020. Others say the worst is yet to come.

So, friends, we are not in the same boat. We are going through a time when our perceptions and needs are completely different.

Each of us will emerge, in our own way, from this storm. It is very important to see beyond what is seen at first glance. Not just looking, actually seeing.

We are all on different ships during this storm experiencing a very different journey.

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To The Nurse

To the nurse who was fired for wearing their own mask.

To the nurse who has been told they’ll be written up for not adhering to hospital policy.

To the nurse who has been told they can trust policy because it’s based on, “CDC guidelines.”

To the nurse who has worked 4, 5, 6, 7 consecutive, 12 hour shifts.

To the nurse who is supposed to get married soon.

To the nurse who has a spouse also on the front lines.

To the nurse who was verbally assaulted on their way to work.

To the nurse who was physically assaulted by a patient when they got there.

To the nurse who hasn’t hugged or kissed their family in weeks.

To the nurse who has no childcare but must report to work.

To the nurse who is pregnant and feels guilty for not accepting COVID cases.

To the nurse who is immunocompromised, but can’t help but feel like she’s failing her coworkers.

To the nurse who watches some people on the outside defy social distancing recommendations.

To the nurse who now has skin breakdown from prolonged mask-use.

To the nurse who just graduated and is in their first year of nursing.

To the nurse who has been denied COVID- testing.

To the nurse who is a single parent and has had to send their kid away to live with relatives.

To the nurse who only sheds tears in the shower so that it can drain with the water.

To the nurse who has had no food or drink their entire shift.

To the nurse who is diabetic and now their glucose is low.

To the nurse who is skilled in operating the ventilators.

To the nurse who wonders what was the point of all those ethics papers back in nursing school.

To the nurse being bombarded by the media to make statements about their experience.

To the nurse who works on a unit that does not have pulse ox cords in some of the rooms.

To the nurse who was told they no longer need an N95, “per the CDC.”

To the nurse who filled out their Advance Directive- Medical POA after a tough shift.

To the nurse who must find their voice and now use their patient advocacy skills, for themselves.

To the nurse on the floor who has been cancelled for the 3rd time, displaced, or redeployed.

To the nurse who knows deep down this is not just droplet + contact.

To the nurse who’s 25-year old abdominal pain patient was found to have ground-glass opacities on the CT.

To the nurse who realizes none of the team wore PPE, since abdominal pain was not part of the criteria.

To the nurse who is hiding their pre-existing condition for fear of retaliation, or coming up short for their coworkers.

To the nurse who was just handed their one mask and plastic bag for the day, for the week.

To the nurse who has been living out of a motel to avoid infecting their family.

To the nurse who is running out of sick leave and PTO.

To the nurse who found out their patient was COVID (+) via word of mouth, through the grape vine.

To the nurse who didn’t pack lunch today because their work schedule does not permit time to buy groceries.

To the nurse who stayed up last night sewing together pieces of fabric so that they’d have a mask.

To the nurse who wonders when that mysterious tent that was put up outside will be put into use.

To the nurse in charge who has received 3 CPRs, a stroke, and a trauma, back to back.

To the nurse who searches anxiously for a new mask; they’re locked up now.

To the nurse who is thinking about putting in their resignation.

To the nurse who wonders well what about the ANA Code of Ethics, you know, provisions 5 and 6?

To the nurse who has arrived at a shift with 8 call outs.

To the nurse who catches a glimpse of the freezer truck parked out back that is being used as morgue overflow.

To the nurse who stands alone in their PPE next to their intubated patient, as they silently have an anxiety attack.

To the nurse who just gave themselves a Cardi-B pep-talk so they can get back out there.

To the nurse who has been told to cohort the cancer patient with the suspected COVID patient, because there’s just no more space.

To the nurse who was told they signed up for this.

To the nurse who is active in the union and spends off days writing up Demands and Calls to Action.

To the nurse who just performed the last round of CPR on their 30-year old patient.

To the nurse who stepped outside to catch their breath but instead ended up pulling an unconscious man out of a car.

To the nurse who is on a travel assignment and nowhere close to their loved ones.

To the nurse who just risked their job by sounding the alarm and exposing their hospital.

To the nurse who knows there are no more ventilators left and their patient will die by morning.

To the nurse who just received a lab call notifying them that their COVID patient’s blood work has hemolyzed.

To the nurse who has been made to feel like their life does not matter.

To the nurse who realizes the public did not truly know what nurses, “do,” until now.

To the nurse who is being reassured by leadership shift after shift that PPE stockpiles exist… somewhere.

To the nurse who woke up to a text message that another one of their coworkers has died.

To the nurse who can feel their spirit breaking.

To the nurse who is not being offered mental health support.

To the nurse rushing to don their PPE as their patient de-sats.

To the nurse being told by higher ups during huddle to abandon all they’ve ever known to be true about appropriate infection control and safety precautions.

To the nurse who muttered under their breath, “yea, but I bet you wouldn’t go in there without an N95.”

To the nurse who just wrapped themselves in a trash bag before entering the room.

To the nurse who was abandoned by the same system they dedicated their life to.

To the nurse who woke up in the middle of the night with a fever and cough.

To the nurse who has tested positive for COVID-19.

To the nurse who can no longer breathe on their own.

To the nurse who has been admitted to the ICU.

To the nurse who was just intubated by their own colleague.

To the nurse who did chest compressions on this nurse with tears streaming down their face.

To the nurse who backs away for the last time, as time of death is called.

To the nurse who has been referred to as, “just a nurse.”

To the nurse who wonders if this is how they treat, “heroes.”

Every day, we write our names and the date on our face masks and eye shields. Every day, we show up stronger, more capable, and braver than the day before. Not just for our patients, but for one another.

My name is Aída. I am an ER nurse.
To the nurses all around the world, I feel you.
I share your pain. I have your back.
I WILL show up for YOU.
You are me. I am you. We are each other.
Let’s show them our truth.

This is, the Year of the Nurse.
Never again will you be, “just a nurse.”🩺🏥💉

Opinions expressed are solely my own and do not express the views or opinions of my employer.

(Photo side memo: Here, the elastic bands of my N95 are not secured yet. Typically, I don’t do this until right before entering a patient’s room since they can be uncomfortable, then double gloving as appropriate.
So before I get crucified 🙈)

By: Aida Kranzburg, MSN – Washington DC

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