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Fools Paradise

Each year on April 1st, a number of folks celebrate “April Fools Day” by playing tricks, jokes or setting up some form of a hoax. This has been celebrated for several centuries by different cultures, though its exact origins remain a mystery.

Those participating in these events often end up yelling “April Fools!” after they have completed their hopefully harmless innocent subterfuge.

It’s important to stay focused when looking to make changes in one’s life, seek clarification on goals and directions for accomplishing those vital steps which lead us to feeling fulfilled. However, it’s just as important to have humor, a bit of fun, and frivolity in our lives.

Take time to share something lighthearted and fun today with those that you make contact with. Maybe tell a joke, or even set up something silly and surprising that brings no harm to anyone.

It is totally possible to partake in April Fool’s Day without ending up looking like a fool in the end…….then again…..

Let us be thankful for the fools…but for them the rest of us could not succeed. ~Mark Twain

The greatest lesson in life is to know that even fools are right sometimes. ~ Sir Winston Churchill

Making Goals Possible

A goal is an object or an aim that we wish to achieve through action. When we set a goal, we are giving ourselves a target to strive for. Holding onto that end result leads to a more structured, meaningful, purposeful, and productive life.

The 2 most recognized goals are short term goals and long term goals.

Short term goals are the ones that a person will achieve in the near future, usually less than a year. These may be an hourly, daily, weekly, or monthly goal. Accomplishments of these goals, when built on each other, can help you achieve an even greater goal/result. Keep in mind, that in order to be successful at your short term goals, they have to be believable and achievable.

Long term goals are ones that a person will achieve as they advance through the different stages of their life and life experiences; these goals usually are set for a time that goes well beyond one year. Perhaps something you hope to achieve, in let’s say…the next 18 months. You can even place your 5, 10, 20 year goals…or beyond…under long term goals.

Tracking progress with your goals can be a game changer. When you measure progress while working towards a specific goal, you will be able to see that though you might not be, in this moment, where you are wanting to get, or visualizing yourself being, you will be able to see over time, that you have made movements in the right direction. Seeing that personal growth will show you that you are a lot better off than where you began when you first set your initial goal(s).

Before you set a goal, take a closer look at what you’re trying to achieve and ask yourself the following questions: 

  • Is this goal something you truly want? 
  • Is it important enough to pour hours of time and effort into it? 

If you’re not willing to put in the time, it may not be worth pursuing.

A useful way of making goals more powerful is to use the SMART  mnemonic. While there are plenty of variants, SMART usually stands for:

  • S – Specific (or Significant).
  • M – Measurable (or Meaningful).
  • A – Attainable (or Action-Oriented).
  • R – Relevant (or Rewarding).
  • T – Time-bound (or Trackable).

Just don’t think about your goals. Write them down. Once you’ve written your goals down, keep them somewhere visible; put personal goals up on your mirror or near your computer screen as a daily reminder and source of motivation.

Your action plan should include the overall goal you’re trying to meet and all the steps you need to take to get there. Working with a life coach can support your efforts to set and make steps to achieve your gols.

Goal setting gives you a list of manageable steps that you can take in order to take your life from where it is now to where you want it to go both effectively and efficiently.

Your life coach will provide a safe space during your sessions to explore these steps, and help hold you accountable as you work towards your goals.

It’s never too late to set goals for success!

NLP Coaching (Neuro Linguistic Programming)

NLP Coaching is suitable for everyone who wants to make a change, to improve themselves, or generally achieve more in their life. NLP can assist a person in staying motivated longer over longer periods of time, while supporting the person in meeting their goals.

NLP is a results oriented type of Coaching system that focuses on the importance of effective communication. NLP is a supplementary skill for Coaches who utilize this type of training with their clients, to help them reframe their behavior patterns to a more empowering pattern until it becomes a conscious habit.

The “N” stands for Neuro (referring to mind, brain, and body). Neuro incorporates the mental and emotional components of neurology;

The “L” stands for Linguistic (the language of an individual); the language you use to communicate with others and with yourself.

The “P” stands for programming (our mental tapes to ourselves) by being able to use language to help other people tap into a deeper level of empowerment and results for themselves. Programming is the way our past experiences, thoughts, and emotions affect all areas of our lives (thoughts, feelings, reactions, beliefs, and traditions).

You Coach will be able to flow between multiple technique and models, utilizing specific ones as needed throughout each coaching session; NLP is one of those tools that may be utilized in your Coaching sessions.

New Year Message

Happy Holidays. I hope you have had a restful Christmas break; a generous holiday full of love, hope, health, and happiness.

Now we welcome the end of 2020 and the beginning of 2021. A time of renewal, a time of gathering our goals, our vision for our life, and honoring who we have been becoming.

Take this opportunity to work with an accountability partner. Begin by scheduling a complimentary session https://vitalability.com/complimentary-consultation/

Brain Based Coaching

Brain based coaching is a coaching approach rooted in contemporary neuroscience. It consists of the scientific study of the brain and the rest of the nervous system by the Coach. Using the latest insights into how the brain works, brain-based coaching is a new approach which complements and amplifies the principles and practices of coaching to create yet more powerful, positive and transformational changes for the person being coached. This is accomplished by facilitating positive change by first improving the thinking.

Brain-based coaching focuses solely on your direction/agenda. This type of coaching tool pulls out what’s already there inside you. Brain based coaching provides the structure, process to help you apply your best thinking skills and explore various insights. Brain based coaching is self-directed and encourages you to think for yourself. , the coachee.

This type of coaching works for clients as it creates a safe environment that is conducive to greater self-awareness, deeper appreciation of circumstances, new insights, and self-confidence. Brain based Coaching encourages lasting change through solution focused results, and self-directed learning.

Attitude of Gratitude

An Attitude of Gratitude is a regular habit to express appreciation for all different parts of life, no matter how small. An attitude of gratitude means that you operate from a place of abundance instead of a place of scarcity and fear. When we train ourselves to look at life through the lens of gratitude rather than disappointment, we find ourselves happier and more at peace. There is so much to be grateful for if we just learn to look for it. We each have the ability to choose what we focus on.

This doesn’t mean that you are grateful for negative or bad experiences that happen in all our lives. It doesn’t mean you are being fake when you are making an effort to focus on the things you are grateful for. Even on those moments, days, or weeks where it feels like nothing is going your way, going right, or feels overwhelming….it is important to lay that foundation of gratitude and keep it separate and independent of our circumstances. It’s important to give thanks for what IS working…no matter how insignificant it may seem.

When you make it a conscious habit to express appreciation for your life, the Universe listens and responds with more positivity. An attitude of gratitude forces you to get outside of your problems and look at the bigger picture. In exchange, you are better able to bounce forward when challenges occur in life.

Think of something in this moment that you are thankful for? Perhaps even take some time to make a list of those things. This Thanksgiving coming up I challenge you to give thanks in different ways to not just others, but yourself as well. Perhaps you are thankful and have an attitude of gratitude for your values, your abilities, your effort to be your authentic self, and your desire to better yourself.

An attitude of gratitude has the power to transform your entire life.

FUN FACT: Smiling forcibly for only 20 seconds stimulates brain activity associated with positive emotions

Ontological Coaching

Ontological Coaching is an approach to living and working well and developing a life of deep satisfaction, meaning and fulfillment as what is known as “Ontology of the Human Observer”. It is based on a new deeply grounded and practical understanding of language, moods and conversations for behavioral and cultural transformation, while expanding a more resourceful way of being.

Our world contains constant changes going on around us.  Every day we are faced with many relentless challenges; some we have become accustomed to overcoming quickly, and others which take us a bit more by surprise.

Ontological coaching seeks to support you to be more flexible in your thinking, communications, and behaviors by not just observing what is going on around you,  by gently inviting you to consider making steps in exploring new ways of acting; having a more constructive influence on how you respond and react to those various life shifts.

Your Coach will not tell you how to be as a person, or how to behave, but rather help support you and assist you in discovering or identifying what you truly desire.  This type of coaching offers you a framework to living an authentic and fulfilling life with personal accountability.

Fall Into Change Through Accountability

Did you know that people tend to achieve more, in a more sustainable way, when they’re in a positive state both psychologically and physically? Did you know this takes personal accountability?

A life coach helps you stay accountable to your goals. Don’t know what your goals are? That’s okay. A coach can encourage you to create goals if you don’t have them. When we think of goals, you want to make sure that not only are the goals realistic, but your timeline to accomplish those goals are realistic as well. Through this process, you will begin understanding your motivations, what makes you feel passionate, what inspires you, what you love – as this is what will keep you moving and shaking.

Just the act of being able to have someone to be accountable to, or to tell about your goals can significantly impact and improve the likelihood you’ll achieve those goals, and learn what is holding you back from getting your end result. Having an accountability partner can help you go beyond your comfort zone and “fall into change” by tracking your action plans and your effort to put the work in to manage those transitions.

No worries, your coach will be right there to help encourage you and support you through those transitions. The nice thing about working with a coach is that they are not personally affected by your change, so can offer an impartial view of things.  What are your values, desires, passion, and hopes for the future? Have you done an accurate assessment of who you really are? Like, really looked at yourself?

We all go through seasons of change and transitions. Sometimes we may be stuck, sometimes we aren’t stuck at all, but just need some clarity. Sometimes, we know exactly what we want and just need that support system to help us get there. Let’s get to the heart of helping you in becoming a better version of yourself.

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Coaching

Let break it down. Let’s start with defining emotional Intelligence. What is emotional Intelligence? Emotional Intelligence (EQ) can be defined as a set of social and emotional skills that help us function effectively.

What is EQ Coaching? EQ coaching is a way to improve your emotional/relational skills, and helps you to develop those skills. EQ Coaching helps you expand the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.

We know that EQ skills, like optimism, flexibility, and empathy (among others), play a major role in the success of individuals, organizations, teams, and groups of various sizes. One of the best ways to improve emotional intelligence is with coaching. Research shows that consistent one-to-one coaching sessions will ensure your continued progress towards reaching your goals. Some of the things that can be explored with your coach is helping to manage and sometimes, even remove, roadblocks such as fear, procrastination, or perfectionism

Coaching begins with an assessment. 

An assessment provides objective information that can enhance self-awareness, as well as awareness of others and their circumstances; provide a benchmark for creating coaching goals and actionable strategies; and offer a method for evaluating progress.

The assessment is statistically valid and scientifically accurate. Along with the support of your coach, you will learn where you score in all competencies, choose the areas of growth that you desire, and then create a plan to develop the competencies and improve those leadership qualities you may be trying to develop or even strengthen.

Take The Leap

What are you waiting for?

It’s time to have a conversation about your future. It’s time to gain that clarity and clarify the direction that inspires you to optimize your performance by meeting those goals.

Let’s collaborate, get that motivation shaken up a bit, and have a conversation about some techniques and action plans that will inspire a strategy that facilitates success and improves your overall feeling about that next chapter in your life.

No more excuses. Now is the time to take the leap.

Reach out here for your FREE 30 minutes consultation