Ontological Coaching

Ontological Coaching is an approach to living and working well and developing a life of deep satisfaction, meaning and fulfillment as what is known as “Ontology of the Human Observer”. It is based on a new deeply grounded and practical understanding of language, moods and conversations for behavioral and cultural transformation, while expanding a more resourceful way of being.

Our world contains constant changes going on around us.  Every day we are faced with many relentless challenges; some we have become accustomed to overcoming quickly, and others which take us a bit more by surprise.

Ontological coaching seeks to support you to be more flexible in your thinking, communications, and behaviors by not just observing what is going on around you,  by gently inviting you to consider making steps in exploring new ways of acting; having a more constructive influence on how you respond and react to those various life shifts.

Your Coach will not tell you how to be as a person, or how to behave, but rather help support you and assist you in discovering or identifying what you truly desire.  This type of coaching offers you a framework to living an authentic and fulfilling life with personal accountability.

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Fall Into Change Through Accountability

Did you know that people tend to achieve more, in a more sustainable way, when they’re in a positive state both psychologically and physically? Did you know this takes personal accountability?

A life coach helps you stay accountable to your goals. Don’t know what your goals are? That’s okay. A coach can encourage you to create goals if you don’t have them. When we think of goals, you want to make sure that not only are the goals realistic, but your timeline to accomplish those goals are realistic as well. Through this process, you will begin understanding your motivations, what makes you feel passionate, what inspires you, what you love – as this is what will keep you moving and shaking.

Just the act of being able to have someone to be accountable to, or to tell about your goals can significantly impact and improve the likelihood you’ll achieve those goals, and learn what is holding you back from getting your end result. Having an accountability partner can help you go beyond your comfort zone and “fall into change” by tracking your action plans and your effort to put the work in to manage those transitions.

No worries, your coach will be right there to help encourage you and support you through those transitions. The nice thing about working with a coach is that they are not personally affected by your change, so can offer an impartial view of things.  What are your values, desires, passion, and hopes for the future? Have you done an accurate assessment of who you really are? Like, really looked at yourself?

We all go through seasons of change and transitions. Sometimes we may be stuck, sometimes we aren’t stuck at all, but just need some clarity. Sometimes, we know exactly what we want and just need that support system to help us get there. Let’s get to the heart of helping you in becoming a better version of yourself.

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Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Coaching

Let break it down. Let’s start with defining emotional Intelligence. What is emotional Intelligence? Emotional Intelligence (EQ) can be defined as a set of social and emotional skills that help us function effectively.

What is EQ Coaching? EQ coaching is a way to improve your emotional/relational skills, and helps you to develop those skills. EQ Coaching helps you expand the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.

We know that EQ skills, like optimism, flexibility, and empathy (among others), play a major role in the success of individuals, organizations, teams, and groups of various sizes. One of the best ways to improve emotional intelligence is with coaching. Research shows that consistent one-to-one coaching sessions will ensure your continued progress towards reaching your goals. Some of the things that can be explored with your coach is helping to manage and sometimes, even remove, roadblocks such as fear, procrastination, or perfectionism

Coaching begins with an assessment. 

An assessment provides objective information that can enhance self-awareness, as well as awareness of others and their circumstances; provide a benchmark for creating coaching goals and actionable strategies; and offer a method for evaluating progress.

The assessment is statistically valid and scientifically accurate. Along with the support of your coach, you will learn where you score in all competencies, choose the areas of growth that you desire, and then create a plan to develop the competencies and improve those leadership qualities you may be trying to develop or even strengthen.

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Take The Leap

What are you waiting for?

It’s time to have a conversation about your future. It’s time to gain that clarity and clarify the direction that inspires you to optimize your performance by meeting those goals.

Let’s collaborate, get that motivation shaken up a bit, and have a conversation about some techniques and action plans that will inspire a strategy that facilitates success and improves your overall feeling about that next chapter in your life.

No more excuses. Now is the time to take the leap.

Reach out here for your FREE 30 minutes consultation

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A Listening

Hello America. Systematic oppression and inequality are not right! I know you’re feeling hurt, angry, outraged, anxious, full of grief, exhausted, overwhelmed, fed up, divided, and at risk.

We are here to listen.

Please note that by working with any of our Coaches we will be respectful of other people’s race, sexuality, national origin, gender identity, religion, physical abilities, and any other identifying characteristics. We ask that when in session with us, you do the same.

I want to encourage you to contact Vital Ability, LLC and be assured that working with any of our Coaches will be done in a hate-free violence-free zone. We will not participate in nor endorse any kind of hateful speech regarding indviduals and groups of people.

We do support and endorse advocacy, empowerment, civility, personal responsibility, authenticity, engagement and service in a desire to improve one’s own self and move forward successfully towards accomplishing your own personal goals for your life.

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You Are Energy

Everything is energy. What you focus on, you become. What you put out into the universe is always coming back to you in some form. You are so much more than your physical body. You are vibration. You are energy.

Transcript: You Are Energy by Jessica Shepherd

You are energy
Do you really understand this?
Do you really get HOW you are energy?
Energy is flowing through you right now!
Energy is around you right now.
You are moving in energy
You are driving your car in energy
You are breathing in and breathing out energy (space for a breathe)
Your body is filled with energy
The thoughts you are thinking are energy
Your feelings are energy, your happiness is energy, your confusion, is energy.
The blood that is pumping around your body feeding every cell with oxygen is energy
Every part of you that is growing – your hair, your nails, if you’re a little person your limbs use energy to grow.
What you eat is energy
What you say, – what comes out of your mouth is energy.

What you look at is energy – what you pay attention to gives it more energy.
If you watch things on TV you are giving your energy to what you watch.
If you listen to or watch things online, you are giving your energy to those things too. You are lining up your energy with those things.

It is your choice what you give your energy to. It is your free will to choose. What are YOU CHOOSING?

What does your energy look like? What does it feel like? Your energy is flowing in directions weather you want it to or not.
Your thoughts and your feelings direct your energy.
Do you know what happens to your energy when you trust?

When you trust that everything always works out for you. When you trust that you have purpose in this world
When you trust that you have more than enough of everything, When you trust you are enough

When you trust that you are worthy of receiving and you have value to give.
When you trust that there is more to you than what people see with their eyes
When you trust that you are a part of something bigger than you, something that is all knowing, all understanding and most of all loving.

When you trust, you allow, your energy relaxes, your cells relax, the tightness dissipates, the holding dissipates, the searching, the confusion, the disappointment RELAXES.

Your energy relaxes and flows more smoothly when you trust.
Suddenly you feel more balanced.
Suddenly you feel more worthy, you feel EASIER, happier, you feel more knowing and peaceful

Can you feel it, can you feel how trusting that everything will be ok, trusting that everything works out for you, trusting that you can heal your body,
Can you feel how this changes the energy within you?.

I can, I can see your energy smoothing when you say this and eventually believe it.
You know believing comes easy with practise. That’s how all you’re other thoughts have turned into beliefs, just with practise.

Practice being kind….rewind.  Rewind and take time for yourself.  Try this every day for 30 days and see how differently you feel. Feel it coming from your heart. Say it out loud and say it with passion and conviction and belief (even on the days you struggle to hold that belief).

Breathe this in and breathe it out.
I trust that everything is working out perfectly for me.
I trust in the universe to bring me everything I need
I trust that the universe knows fully my plans, my potential, my inner most desires and dreams and I trust that the universe is doing everything it can to help me along my path at the perfect time.
I trust that I am worthy of happiness
I trust that I am worthy of love
I trust that I am of value to this world
I trust that I am a powerful creator and that if I can fill myself up with enough great feel good things that the opposite just won’t exist anymore.
I trust in my power to heal myself, to know myself, to be able to hear my true self.
I trust that my true inner self is speaking to me all the time and I trust that I can hear it. My feelings are the voice that let me know what is going on for my inner self. Not my spiralling rampaging emotions that coupled with thoughts can send me up the garden path, but my true feelings in my heart, the ones that when injected with love tell the real authentic story of the way I am feeling.
I trust that I am strong, capable and clever.
I trust that I am successful at being me first and foremost and the more in alignment I can be with myself the better everyone around me will feel.
I am emanating happiness, peacefulness and joy.
I love my life and I enjoy the journey.
I AM GREATFUL

I am energy

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Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques

EFT is a practical self-help method that involves using the fingers to gently tap on the body’s acupuncture points along the meridian lines of Chinese medicine. It is often referred to as ‘EFT Tapping’ or simply as ‘Tapping’. The therapeutic effects of this technique are recognized around the world.

EFT tapping is an alternative treatment for certain emotional and physical conditions. Some research indicates that it may be effective for anxiety, depression, emotional turmoil, PTSD, and some other conditions.

There have been relatively few studies on EFT, but the body of research has grown in recent years.

In addition to the studies that evaluate EFT on people with both anxiety and depression, other research focuses on EFT for those with depression  or PTSD alone.

In a 2013 study, 30 veterans who received EFT treatment along with standard care had significantly less psychological distress and PTSD symptoms than those who were on a waiting list for treatment.

In addition, after three and six sessions, 60.0% and 85.7% of these participants respectively no longer met the PTSD clinical criteria. At 6 months after the treatment, 79.5% of participants did not fit the criteria, which the researchers said indicated the long term benefits of EFT.

In a 2017 survey of EFT practitioners, most (63%) reported that EFT could resolve even complex PTSD in 10 sessions or fewer. Almost 90% of respondents stated that less than 10% of their clients make little or no progress.

More recently, a 2019 study involving 203 individuals tested the physical reactions and psychological symptoms of people attending EFT workshops. The majority of people that took part were women over the age of 50 years.

The researchers reported that participants experienced significant reductions in anxiety, depression, and PTSD symptoms, as well as in pain levels and cravings. They also reported improvements in happiness.

Physical measures in a subset of participants showed improvements in heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of the stress hormone cortisol.

In other research, students with anxiety reported that EFT helped them feel calmer and more relaxed.

In addition, practitioners often combine EFT with other approaches, including cognitive therapy, which may play a role in the treatment’s success

What is EFT and who uses it?

EFT,  first came to prominence in the 1990s when developer Gary Craig published information about the therapy on his website EFT International dot org.

It involves tapping specific points on the body, primarily on the head and the face, in a particular sequence, on one or both sides of the body at particular spots. While doing this, the person focuses on the issue that they wish to treat.

How does it work?

As with acupuncture and acupressure, tapping involves the body’s energy meridian points, which are a concept in Chinese medicine. Proponents believe them to be areas of the body through which energy flows.

In this theory, blocks or imbalances in the flow of energy lead to ill health. According to EFT advocates, tapping on these meridian points with the fingertips restores the balance of energy to resolve physical and emotional issues.

It can also work in a similar way to mindfulness, as it can draw a person’s attention to their body and breathing. It may serve as a mental distraction from the issues that are causing anxiety or stress.

How to do EFT tapping

People may also be beneficial for a person before an event that they expect to cause stress or anxiety.

To use EFT tapping, follow these five steps:

1. Identify the issue

During this step, the person thinks about the problem that they wish to resolve. They should only choose one issue to focus on at a time.

2. Test the initial intensity

A person should rank the intensity of the issue on a scale of 0–10, with 10 being the worst the issue has ever been. This ranking system allows the person to assess the effectiveness of the tapping at the end of the treatment.

3. The setup

Before beginning each round of tapping, the person should decide on a simple reminder phrase to repeat while tapping the karate chop point. This point is at the center of the fleshy part of the outer hand.

The reminder phrase should acknowledge the issue and convey self-acceptance in spite of it. For example, a person might choose to say:

“Even though I have [issue], I deeply and completely accept myself.”

4. The sequence

During this step, the individual taps on specific points on the body while repeating the phrase that they have chosen. If a practitioner is performing the treatment, they will carry out the tapping.

The tapping points, in sequence, are as follows:

  • top of the head (TOH) — directly in the center of the top of the head
  • beginning of the eyebrow (EB) — the beginning of the brow, just above and to the side of the nose
  • side of the eye (SE) — on the bone at the outside corner of the eye
  • under the eye (UE) — on the bone under the eye, approximately 1 inch (in) below the pupil
  • under the nose (UN) — the point between the nose and upper lip
  • chin point (CH) — halfway between the underside of the lower lip and the bottom of the chin
  • beginning of the collarbone (CB) — the point where the breastbone (sternum), collarbone, and first rib intersect
  • under the arm (UA) — at the side of the body, approximately 4 in below the armpit

When tapping, use two or more fingertips and repeat the tap approximately five times on each point.

While some points have a “twin point” on the other side of the body, it is only necessary to tap on one side. However, individuals can tap these points on both sides if both of their hands are free.

5. Test the intensity again

Again, rank the intensity of the issue on a scale of 0–10. Ideally, this will have improved. Repeat the process until the intensity reaches 0 or plateaus.

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Coaching Is For Everyone

Coaching is an opportunity to maximize your performance. It isn’t about doing what is expected of you, it is about connecting you with your passion, helping you build your life around the things you love, the things you want to grow, and see beyond where you are in the current moment.

Coaching helps raise awareness and responsibility. You are never too old to set another goal or dream another dream. The only distance between your dreams and reality is the action steps you take to get there. You don’t have to be accomplished, all knowing, or great to get started. However, you do need to take the leap, make the step, and actually get started to get to that level of greatness to live the life where you find it harder not to see your worth.

Let coaching help you get from where you are, to where you want to be.

To build a strong team, you must see someone else’s strength as a compliment to your weakness; not a threat to your position or authority ~Christine Caine

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How Coaches and Therapists Differ

How Therapists and Coaches Differ

Keeping in mind that contrasting lists such as these can be overly sweeping, and not entirely explanatory of the subtleties that exist, here are some of the differences between coaching and therapy.

  1. COACHING is an educational, discovery-based process of human potential.
    THERAPY is based on the medical model that says people have psychiatric maladies that need to be repaired.
  2. COACHING focuses on self-exploration, self-knowledge, professional development, performance enhancement and better self-management.
    THERAPY seeks to heal emotional wounds.
  3. COACHING takes clients to the highest levels of performance and life satisfaction.
    THERAPY seeks to bring clients from a dysfunctional place to a healthy functioning level.
  4. COACHING rarely asks about your childhood or family life.
    THERAPY continuously explores early-childhood, family and relationship issues.
  5. COACHING uses the terms blockages and obstructions to denote what needs to be removed.
    THERAPY uses the term “pathology” to describe the “patient’s” issues.
  6. COACHING focuses more on the present and future.
    THERAPY focuses more on the past and present.
  7. COACHING advances the client’s potential.
    THERAPY “cures” the patient.
  8. COACHING is used by people who already are succeeding, but who want to succeed even more and at a faster rate.
    THERAPY is used by people whose lives are not working.
  9. COACHING focuses more on thoughts and behavior and how the client acts and thinks about things.
    THERAPY focuses more on emotions and how the client feels about things.
  10. COACHING comes out of the human potential movement and the performance world.
    THERAPY has its roots in the medical model.
  11. COACHING focuses on solving problems in the now.
    THERAPY explores the historical roots of problems.
  12. COACHING works with the client’s conscious mind.
    THERAPY focuses on bringing the patient’s unconscious mind into awareness.
  13. COACHING focuses on creating the future.
    THERAPY seeks to heal the past.
  14. COACHING seeks to bring more power, control and joy to the client.
    THERAPY seeks to remove the client’s pain.
  15. COACHING assumes a co-equal partnership between coach and client.
    THERAPY assumes the therapist to be more of the expert, and in control.
  16. COACHING has strategies and objectives.
    THERAPY has a treatment plan.
  17. COACHING asks “What is next?”
    THERAPY asks “Why”?
  18. COACHING helps clients design their lives.
    THERAPY resolves issues.
  19. COACHING takes an active, energetic approach.
    THERAPY takes a more passive, reflective, background approach.
  20. COACHING focuses on what is possible.
    THERAPY focuses on what is the problem.
  21. COACHING is goal-oriented, solution-focused and results and action-oriented.
    THERAPY mainly seeks to increase patient insight, yet some therapists are solution-focused.
  22. COACHING may also utilize feedback from bosses, peers and subordinates.
    THERAPY usually involves only the patient and therapist.
  23. COACHING takes the client from where they are and helps them move forward.
    THERAPY examines unfinished emotional business from all stages of life.

~ Written by: Bill Cole/William Cole

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This Is It

This is it! The sign you have been looking for. The confirmation you needed to take that next step to transformation, of moving forward based on the the transitions you have experienced, have been experiencing or are about to experience. This is it. The support you have been looking for, or never knew you needed. This is it. The time to harness your inner strength and begin your transformation to your life – A life worth living!!

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